Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Interview, 2013

October 15, 2013
This is our third round of this.  We had one in August of 2011, and the previous one was May, 2009.
I added a few questions this year.  I wanted to include the originals because it makes me smile to see their answers over the years, but this check-in was also an evaluation, to see how everyone is doing.  I love these babies.
And I'm so relieved that I seem to have passed, again.  :)  Well--mostly!
(It's hard to ask some of these questions.  You just know you're going to wince!)


Trevelyn:

1. What is something I always say to you?

I love you.
(Third time for that answer.)

2. What makes me happy?
I don't want to sound cheesy!  [Groan]  Well... I know one thing you love is being with me and Maddie every day.

3. What makes me sad?
When I'm acting like an idiot, and say something insensitive.  Or when I'm sad.
So...do I make you feel like an idiot?
No...that's a simple answer.  No.
Do I make you feel smart?  Do I make you feel anything?
Well, you don't make me feel anything but happy with my life.  You don't make me feel angry, or sad.  Well--sometimes you make me feel angry, because I question your logic.
Do you question my logic to me?  Voice it?  And do we work that out?
Yeah, I think so.
Things are explained, and...
Explained and resolved?  Yeah.

4. How do I make you laugh?
When I ask you to say something stupid, and you say it.  That makes me laugh.
Can't think of anything else.  'Cause all the jokes you tell are just reeeeeeally bad puns.

5. What was I like as a child?
You had a southern accent.

6. How old am I?
Um... either 43 or 44.
(44)

7. How tall am I?
How do you expect me to answer that?
You don't know how tall I am?
Um... shorter than me!

8. What is my favorite thing to do?
Be with me and Maddie.

9. What do I do when you’re not around?
Sit around on the couch or bed and be on your computer.

10. If I become famous, what will it be for? 
Pause...
My jokes?
I don't know.  You're just an average mom, living an average life.  Except that your kids are unschooled.
(lol.  How dreary and dull I must be!)

11. What am I really good at?
Writing blog updates, and trying to keep me and Maddie happy.

12. What am I not very good at?
Well...you're not really good at running.
(Again with the running!)

13. What do I do for a job?
Well, if you consider being a mother and taking care of your kids a job, that's your job, and doing fun things with me and Maddie.  But you don't get paid for putting vhs tapes in the vcr.

Will you get this down for me?  I'd like to say something:
Man... I feel like I've got everything.  I've got two gaming consoles, a steady income of food and money and water, I've got a good home and a good family and good friends that I can always trust.  I don't have any problems... I'm growing up in a middle class neighborhood that doesn't have lots of problems, and don't live around any crazy people. (I could disagree that, but I s'pose I won't.) So yeah... I'd say I pretty much have got it all!

14.What is my favorite food?
Chicken enchiladas is one, though I can't pinpoint just one favorite.
(Same as before, too. And me, neither.)

15. What makes you proud of me?
What makes me proud of you?  That's kind of an odd question.  What makes me proud of you... is that you keep after me and take good care of me even after I constantly do stupid things.
Do I make you feel like you constantly do stupid things?
No.. it's only when I do stupid things that I feel like I constantly do stupid things.
But isn't that normal?  Is that something everyone does?  Mistakes, I mean?
Yes.  Everybody makes mistakes.  Nobody is perfect.  'Course not.  Then the world would be a dull place.
So should you be so hard on yourself?
No... I don't think I should.  I was just kind of mouthing off because I didn't know how to answer that question.
So do you want to change your answer?
No, I'll keep it, 'cause I can't think of a better one.

16. If I were a cartoon character, who would I be?
I don't know.

17. What do you and I do together?
I don't want to sound cheesy, is what the thing is.
Does that mean this is going to be a mushy answer?
I don't know any way that I can say it that won't sound in a silly way... that won't sound cheesy.
What do we do together?
[Groan]... Well... we like to play games, do science experiments, you and Maddie do things that I don't want to be a part of like arts and crafts... and we do painting...

18. How are you and I the same?
Well, mostly I get my traits from dad, and Maddie gets lots from you, but we kind of do look similar.

19. How are you and I different?
Well, obviously I'm male, and you're female.  There's the fact that I like toilet humor, and you really don't like it.  Could be becasue it's often when we're right in the middle of doing something.

20. How do you know I love you?
Well because you like to do stuff with me, and you take good care of me, and you say I love you everytime I walk into the room.

Added this year:

21.  What is the greatest thing about your life?
The fact that I have so many things in my life.  And so many opportunities.  And I have so many options... so many things I can do in my life.  And I've got no real problems.

22.  What is something in your life you'd like to get rid of?
I don't think there's anything that I  don't want... but maybe that my puppy (Lou) not be a demon, sometimes.

23.  If I could be with you more, what would you like for us to do?
I'm perfectly fine with what we do... you know... just hang out... learn interesting things... do interesting things.  There isn't anything more I'd like that we don't do.

24.  Would you like to do more fun things, or less fun things than we do now?
If we had to do more things... that would mean more wilderness, and more games, and more going places... and that would mean I would have less time to play on my computer... But I don't want to do less fun things, either.  I think the amount of things we do is just fine.

25.  How is your life different from other people your age?
The thing that most majorly factors is that I don't go to school.  And I don't go to homeschool, either.  I unschool, which means you learn interesting things, and do interesting things in ways that don't turn you into a brainless, mindless robot.
So all homeschoolers are robots?
Well of course not, and I don't even think it's fair to say homeschoolers are robots..I haven't really had any interactions with homeschoolers, except for my cousins, aren't they certainly aren't robots. 
Although I can probabaly say that schools are probably brainwashing kids... because they just  pressure kids into learning something, which they forget about the next day... and it's a perpetual state of learning and forgetting things. Not to mention the idiotic bullies who harrass other children for the most stupid, idiotic, and irrational reasons imaginable.  Such as having red hair.

26.  How would you change your life, if you could?
I would have a quadrillion dollars so that my dad didn't have to work.  I wish I had an allowance of $100 bucks a week, instead of $20 bucks every two weeks.
What would you do with a hundred bucks a week?
Expensive games, and expensive toys.
Like what?
Uuhh... some cool dinosaurs.  Rare games like The Orange Box.  'Cept I have The Orange Box.

27.  What's the greatest thing about your family?
Well, once again... that I have such a great life, and I have no real problems.  A great home, with great things to do.  That's the greatest thing.  Perfectly functioning, and have no real problems.
You never, ever have any problems?
Well, sometimes I have problems... but those are very rare times, and those problems always get resolved.  And as of today... I don't have any.  And haven't for a while... so that's what makes it so great.
Are we almost done, here?
Almost.

28.  The worst (thing about your family)?
Well... if I have to pinpoint one thing... it would be that you sometimes go overboard with going to some place, like the desert or the mountains, that's like an hour away... however, it just comes across as irritating, not a real problem.  It just cuts into my time to be at home to lay around and rest.

29.  If you had more love in your life, that would mean....
What? 
How would it look if all of us loved you more... how would that look? What would that mean?
Maddie wouldn't annoy the hell out of me.
My parents already love me so much, I don't think they CAN love me any more.  'Any More'... that's two words, not 'anymore'.
Right.  got it.
Are we done, now?

There's one more... Oh, wait, I guess there isn't.  Last words?
Well, usually last words means you're about to have your head knocked off, but if I had any last words... this was kind of a boring interview, and I really want to play on my xbox, now.
So this bored you? 
Well, not really bored me... but the questions, like 'how can I love you better? and 'if you had more love in your life, what would that mean?'  and 'how can you be happier?" are kind of boring to answer, because I always answer the same thing... my life is so perfect and balanced, I don't think it can be improved upon.
I love you.
I love you, too.

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Madeleine:

1. What is something I always say to you?
I love you.

2. What makes me happy?
Uh... me?

3. What makes me sad?
Um... me being sad.

4. How do I make you laugh?
By either tickling me or telling funny jokes.

5. What was I like as a child?
Uh... well... you went to school...

6. How old am I?
Uh... aren't you like 44?

7. How tall am I?
Uh... I don't know... you're bigger than me, that's all I know.

8. What is my favorite thing to do?
Play with us, and go on adventures with us.
 
9. What do I do when you’re not around?
Play with Trevy.

10. If I become famous, what will it be for?
Uh... for money? 
Playing with us?

11. What am I really good at?
Taking us on adventures, and making sure we're having fun.


12. What am I not very good at?
You're really good at art...you're not very good at not yelling at Lou... [giggle].

13. What do I do for a job?
Play with us.
 
14.What is my favorite food? .
Ummm...hmm... fettucini from Redrock?

15. What makes you proud of me?
Everything!
Everything makes you proud of me?

Wait... uh... what?
What makes you proud of me?
Um...I can't think of anything. 
:)

16. If I were a cartoon character, who would I be?
Uh..... uuummmm.... hmm.....I don't know.

17. What do you and I do together?
Play and do arts and crafts and go to places.

18. How are you and I the same?
Well, you're my mom, and I'm your kid?  And... both of our pinky toes stick up.  Pinky toe nails stick up.

19. How are you and I different? 
Well... I like different things than you... I like dragons, and you like arts and crafts.
You don't like arts and crafts?
I do like arts and crafts... you like ghost towns, I like skyping...

20. How do you know I love you?
Because you tell me it every day.
Is there any other way you know I love you?
You hug me and kiss me every day, and play with me.

Is this almost done?
Pretty soon...

21.  What is the greatest thing about your life?
Well... I love you, and I love my family, I love my dogs... I love going on adventures... I love almost everything in my life.  I don't like when Lou attacks me, and I don't like Lou barking all night.  And I don't like when Lou lays in the middle of the bed where I have to put my legs.  That's about all.

22.  What is something in your life you'd like to get rid of?
Nothing.
There's nothing at all bad?  No anger, or sadness?
Anger, and sadness and meanness and sickness.
Do you have a lot of those things?
No.... I don't have them all the time... but I do always have them sometimes.

23.  If I could be with you more, what would you like for us to do?
I would like for us to go to places like Classic.... the museum.... and the pool.... and things like that.

24.  Would you like to do more fun things, or less fun things than we do now?
Well, like I said. I'd like to do those things more often.  Which are fun things. 

25.  How is your life different from other people your age?
Well, Kyan likes cats, and I like every other animal in the world a little more than I like cats.  But I do like big cats a lot.  But Kyan likes cats, and he likes cats a little more than me.

26.  How would you change your life, if you could?
Well... I would change it by not going on roadtrips every three days, and I would change it by... pretty much that's all.

27.  What's the greatest thing about your family?
Well... I like pretty much everything about my family... I like playing with them... I like going places with them....

28.  The worst (thing about your family)?
Going on roadtrips.  Them taking me on roadtrips.

29.  If you had more love in your life, that would mean....
I would have more friends, and I would have more, like.... well, I would have more friends, that's all I know.  And there would be less murder.
If daddy and I loved you more... what would that mean?  How would your life be different?
Well... they would not take me on roadtrips. 

Let's talk about roadtrips.  What don't you like?  Do you not have fun?
I do have fun... I don't like the long way to get there.  That's the thing I hate.
Do you not have things to do? 
I do, but when I look at the screen, I get carsick.
Why do we go on roadtrips?
To have fun and see ghost towns and things.
Why is it so important to your family to go on roadtrips?
Because seeing lilypads and ghost towns.  And mountains and animals.
But why is that important?
Because it's roadtrips.
What's the purpose?
I don't know.  I don't know what the purpose of roadtrips is.
But why?  Is it exploring?
Oh, yeah.  I didn't think of that.  To see the world, and to find out what the world has for us to see.

How can I love you better?
By not taking me on roadtrips?
[Laugh.....] Besides road trips...
What could I do for you that would make you feel even more loved than you do, now?
Well...Dad would have more time off and he would play with me more, and you would take me to places like Classic and things like that, more.

What do you think about this interview?  What do you think the purpose is?
Well, to show people about my life, and to show them what I'd like to change in my life and things like that.
Actually, the purpose of this is so that I can check in with you, and see what needs to be changed.
Oh!
What do you have to say about that?
Oh... okay.  NEXT!!!
Any last words?
Nope.
Nothing?  Nothing to say about this?
"I am free!!"... and she marches off singing "Dah-dah-dah-dut-daaaah!!!"

9 comments:

  1. ooof. This is a powerful thing you're doing. Ryan came into the room while I was reading this and, I asked him the first question in your list to get his response. What followed was illuminating and extraordinarily heartbreaking. Instead of "I love you", which I feel like I say all the time, he said, "Can it be more than one thing?" Me: Sure Him: "Ryan! Clean up your room, it's disgusting in here! Ryan, your hair is so greasy, you really need to take a shower." Oh my. I think I'm going to go hug him and then go cry for a while.

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  2. It's scary, Evie, there's no doubt about it.
    Here's my idea: Love the hell out of him for the next week, then ask him again. :) I bet his answers will change.

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  3. I wasn't trying to be flippant or unkind, dearest Evie. And I'm not being judgmental, either. Know that.

    I was just thinking of how I would feel, if my children had responded that way.
    And so I was thinking of the best and most efficient way to resolve that, and get over that pain.

    'Love, love, love', was the answer.
    So the best thing is just to fix it. For him, and for you.

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  4. That's a very good idea. There's time when everything seems to go wrong here... And instead of asking myself I should ask the kids!
    They are young thought, so I'll ask fewer questions...

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  5. Andreann--
    Mmhmm. Asking the babes is something I do regularly.
    I think a lot of times people don't consider it (it just doesn't occur to them that it's an option).. but really, it's the most wise thing to do!

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  6. I would NEVER think you were being flippant!! Actually, I think it's a great suggestion. I think I've just fallen into some really bad habits and, if I hadn't asked him the question they would have continued. It's a blessing that you posted this interview today because it gave me the opportunity to learn something about myself as well as gave him the opportunity to tell me how he was feeling. So thank you for the post!!! <3

    It was fun to read what your kids wrote. Trev is incredibly well-spoken. I truly loved reading both of their responses to your questions and know this is going to be a series that they will appreciate having later on down the road, too!

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  7. LOL Oh the road trips thing made me giggle - isn't it funny how something can be so universally disliked by so many? My kids like the destination and not the journey too (I'm a tad bit inclined that way myself as a sufferer of car sickness). I love that you ask them - I do this too and I love it (even the grumbles lol).
    Tell Maddie we have to drive a three hour round trip to go to the supermarket - which would be fine by me....if it was in a ghost town :)

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  8. I know, made me laugh, too. :)
    She doesn't always get sick, and she only started (since we've had the new truck) the second-to-last time we went, but that had a definite (awful) impression on her.
    Poor honey!
    We've been going often the last few weeks--soon it will be winter, and snow everywhere, and just too cold to spend long hours outside.
    And there have been some places I've wanted to see, and wanted to take them.
    Guess more than one big adventure a week is not a good idea. :)

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  9. Ahhhhh Stephanie, I've Ben meaning to do this since I read an old interview from you and some one else's. I think it's most timely and happening upon this post now is the reminder I needed to checking.

    I loved reading Trev and Maddie's responses. So interesting to see the differences. And road trips. Hmmmm yep those road trips :)

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Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!