Monday, April 11, 2011


An addendum to yesterday's post. (And how are the Children?)
For those asking.

I watched a couple of videos this morning from grown unschoolers.
And then there were a couple of comments here that got me thinking...

The words I wrote yesterday are important to me because they're my thoughts. My words.
My feelings, and my suppositions, and my ideas.

I think that if we're interested then often we can be unsure of unschooling because we fear that there is only one way to do it, and if we aren't doing it that way, it's wrong.
Or it can't be called Unschooling.
But Unschooling is done by Unschoolers.

I'm not talking about tossing in a requirement of four hours at the kitchen table with workbooks every day and still calling it unschooling, and I'm not talking about "You haven't finished studying this week's spelling words I've assigned you, yet." It's totally inappropriate to completely change the foundation of something, and then to call it the same thing.

But it still won't look the same in every home.

In one of the videos I watched this morning, the girl (she was twenty-five) said when she was ten, she didn't want to bother understanding math, and her parents handed over the checkbook. And she had to do their taxes.
In another, the girl started wandering around her city at thirteen. Looking at structures, investigating alleys... whatever. (Reminds me of John T. Gatto's style.)

My friend Julie reads and reads and reads (everything!) with her boys.
In Madison, Denise and her boys are science and computer wizzes - and spend their days making art and karate chopping.
Jean's family in New England plays and wanders much like my family does... her husband Drew is a public school teacher.
My friend Debbie meanders through their days in London (Canada) with her little son who taught himself to read at three years old.
Some homes don't have televisions.
Some unschoolers live on farms.
Some spend their days making music. Playing soccer. Traveling.
None of us are confined to particular things or ways or interests - we all continue to constantly chase dreams and find new interests and celebrate who we are.

You (you and your beloveds) get to find your own way.
How fantastic is that?! You get to live in your world, with your resources, and your interests--investigating, questioning, searching, seeking, evaluating, discovering... making it up as you go along. Filling up your life and heart as you choose.
Eating up life with huge, gasping gulps and lazy, dreamy sips.

It's your call.
Isn't that awesome?


  1. It is indeed awesome. The most fantastical wonderful kind of awesome. :) We have to let their inner genius come out and be supported and they know that they can do anything they set their minds and hearts to. It totally rocks.

  2. Great post :) and I agree


  3. I am amazed by my kids every day. It is an honor to share this lifestyle with them. It is also an honor to be in such amazing company :-)

  4. Indeed! I love seeing how other unschoolers shine in their own way, it helps me to celebrate my own kids and the unique way in which they shine:)

  5. I just caught up on these last two posts and they have left me feeling full--full of gratitude for your words and blog, for unschooling, for the life we live, for the choices we've made, and for seeing the very same happiness you've described, in my own children. I have run across many many naysayers, as we probably all have, and it gets to you after awhile you know? But that is why I visit here, and many other places you have listed.
    Thanks so so much, Stephanie, what an incredible boost :).


Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!